How are you at coaching your team and your family?
Are you like a coach on the sidelines constantly sending in orders hoping the team will execute?
Business leaders think being a coach means constantly sending in orders like a coach on the sideline. The leader believes they should tell the team what to do and how to do everything and then the team will just execute. The issue is that the employees do not learn to think for themselves. They constantly come to the leader for the answers for everything essentially slowing down the organization.
This style of coaching does not promote effective thought in individuals and does not allow them to grow. If there is no growth then the business, team, family will suffer.
What I learned in 2016 from John Maxwell’s Certification is that coaching is not about telling people what, or how to do everything. Coaching is instead asking questions for the individual to produce their best answer for the given situation. It’s encouraging them to look within for their best answer. Not telling people what and how to do things.
Most of the time in business, we are trying to answer questions and get to solutions fast. Because of the speed at which business is evolving we keep perpetuating the same cycle. When we arrive home at the end of the day, we are still dictating what needs to happen, how it needs to happen, and when it needs to happen to our families if we are not careful. Will that help our families thrive?
We may get things accomplished, but we need to grow others around us so that they can make decisions and still move forward. If we are not coaching these individuals correctly, we are actually hurting them. I also am learning to not have people do it the way I would do it. I need to let go of control and let them do it their way. By doing so they will grow confidence in themselves and their decisions which will make them more efficient their way.
As coaches, we can not be the sole source of answers. We need to help cultivate a culture in our organizations of aligning with the core mission and vision, and individual solutions that align with that direction. We have to give them trust and let them have some bumps and bruises at the beginning. Yes, it’s slower at first, but speed will pick up speed over time. We need to guide them and coach them before they are free to make those decisions.
We need to continually ask those thought provoking questions to help individuals come up with better decisions. Even if those decisions do not align with what we believe is best at the time, we still need to trust the process to help them grow. Over time we will gain that trust of the individual and their decision-making process. If not, then we will never be free for family, vacations, and our own growth.
Ultimately, we will expire and it is on us to grow those around us. If we expire and we leave those that looked up to us without this essential decision-making process, our legacy will be in jeopardy and they won’t be able to move forward. How do you think that will benefit them?
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”