When Leaders set out to lead a group of individuals, some fall short. It’s not because these leaders are incompetent. It’s mainly because they don’t understand how to build influence.
John Maxwell who is the leadership guru of the 21st century has a quote that states “Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less...” If we want to lead others, we need to know how to build influence. That is where the sales process uncovered comes in. By applying the principals, people are able to grow influence with others.
When we are working with others, we need influence in order to move forward with them. We start by learning about them, their families, their hobbies, etc. This is the same as building rapport in the sales process. Unfortunately, rapport is only the beginning of building influence and not the end all.
Just having rapport gets us in the door to have a conversation, but Influence is a deeper relationship with that individual. Influence is building up relational collateral like a bank account. It takes time to high levels of influence in order to get the person jumping all in with us.
When we start taking a deep interest in other people, we will start gaining influence with them. That person will start to open up in areas that they feel they can share as well as ask for input.
I use the 3 letters when trying to learn more about others to build influence. The letters are C.I.A. No, not the government agency.
C-stands for being curious. Be curious like a child that never stops wanting to know more. Be curious to learn more about our relationships whether they are customers, teammates, family, friends, people we just met, etc. Be curious to learn about them as much as we can. People love to talk about themselves and are craving that connection.
I-stands for being intentional. Be intentional about our relationships. While we are asking questions do not stare at a phone while the other person responds. Look them in the eyes and pay attention to what they are saying and how they are saying it. We’ll learn a lot about a person when we pay attention to their posture, their tones, their words. Even when someone is saying they are fine… if their tone sounds like they are about to scream, they are not fine. Pay attention and see if there is a way we can help.
A-stands for asking questions. Ask a great deal of questions. This being paired up with curiosity and being intentional helps us really learn about the relationships. What is really going on with our teammates, our customers, our family members? Similar to the sales process where we do a needs analysis in my book “The Sales Process Uncovered”, we will ask questions to see if there is a way we can help the person get to where they want to go. People of great influence are not those that take from people, but are people that give as much as they can without expecting anything in return. That can be time, money, clothing, etc. Dale Carnegie, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ are all people of great influence. These people started most of their conversations with questions. These individuals wanted to learn about the situation and where they could help. They stepped in.
For today, focus on using C.I.A. when you interact with people you come in contact with. Not for the sole purpose of gaining influence, but for connection and stronger relationships.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”